• Pain during sex
• Lack of enjoyment from sex
• Difficulties within a relationship
• Tiredness
• Previous negative experiences
• Negative self-image
• Sexual problem, for example erectile dysfunction
• Stress
• Lack of self care
• Avoidance of intimacy
• Sexual trauma
• Chronic illness
• Mental health problems, for example depression

Avoiding sex can be situational (when you have sexual desire for others but not for your partner) or general (you have no sexual desire for anyone). It can be primary (if you have never experienced the desire to have sex with anyone) or secondary (when you began your relationship with normal sexual desire but later became disinterested).

Finding the root cause for the avoidance of sex is the first step toward change. Often there are several reasons for avoiding sex that accumulate over time. Once we know why you are avoiding sex we can work together to see if we can change the way you feel about sex.

Please note that I can help with sexual problems arising from sexual trauma (abuse) but I do not provide counselling specifically to deal with the traumatic event(s) itself.

I understand it can be difficult to speak to someone about any sexual problem. Please be reassured that I provide a safe and confidential space for you to talk.

If you are unsure if I can help with a problem you are experiencing, please e-mail me at enquiries@spg.scot, which is an encrypted e-mail, to discuss further.